My daughter created this spectacular star at school a few weeks ago and it reminded me that she sees the world as full of possibilities. In fact, she sees her life filled with stars, wishes and LOTS of glitter!
Can you recall a time when you felt like that? When you had a glittery wish to do, be or have something? And every time you thought about it you had that rollercoaster feeling in the pit of your stomach? Now can you think of a time when you simply thought about it but didn’t act upon it? Why was that?
Maybe you lacked the resources, such as education, time or money. But I’m going to take a leap and assume there’s another reason…FEAR. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of appearing foolish. I’m here to share with you that you’re not alone!
Each of us is filled with brilliant ideas and magnificent dreams yet some are scared to take those first steps toward action. Spending most of their time and energy thinking of all the reasons they shouldn’t take action. Once this begins it’s a perpetual cycle of negative self-talk, creating an even further distance between where you are and where you want to be.
Yet there are those who focus their energy on the possibilities and opportunities if they were to take action immediately. They may experience failure but simultaneously they will have learned valuable lessons and be another step closer to the achievement of their goals.
What's the difference between those that take action and those that only dream? The answer is typically self-confidence. When you have positive self-talk, positive visions and positive energy, your brain will take over the job of accomplishing the possibility for you and will move you into action.
Some people may appear to be naturally self- confident but that's not completely true. Those that believe in themselves have been practicing it, maybe their entire lives or perhaps more recently. Believing in you is a choice! Beliefs are simply habitual thoughts that CAN be changed but it’s up to you to take charge of your own beliefs and self-confidence!
Here are four of my favorite strategies to build self-confidence.
1. Listen daily to motivational recordings.
I begin my day by listening to an audio book or podcast. During my typical 45-minute commute I have a surround sound of motivation in my car. And on the days I don't commute, I listen to an inspirational podcast while getting ready. You don't need to invest an exorbitant amount of time; in fact there are several podcasts that are about 10 minutes. But I do recommend you listen daily. The result? In lieu of thinking about traffic or tasks that await me, I'm energized and ready to tackle anything that may come my way!
2. Spend time with uplifting people.
Recall a time when you were with negative people. How did you feel? How did you act? Now recall a time when you were surrounded by positive people. Was it a different experience? When encircled by negativity you too begin to feel destructive, experience less energy and increase your own self-doubt. But when you’re with positive people, they have a tendency to lift you up, leaving you energized and ready to move into action. Make a list of the top 20 people you spend most of your time with. Now place a positive or negative sign next to their name based upon their own energy and attitude. Begin to spend more of your time with those who provide positive value in your life.
3. Establish short-term goals.
It’s important to have long-term goals, in fact, I read mine every day. But by pure definition a long-term goal can take a long time! This can lead to frustration and self-defeat while trying to reach your goal. Do yourself a favor and for each long-term goal, establish several short-term goals. This will provide you with small wins along the way, instilling a belief that you CAN do it and in turn fueling your momentum to continue working toward the larger goals.
4. Maintain a success journal.
Take a few moments before going to bed each night to reflect upon your day. Recall anything and everything you did well. It doesn’t have to be a major triumph, the small victories apply. Maybe you’ve struggled to arrive to work on time and that day you arrived five minutes early. Did you pay someone a compliment? Did you help a family member or coworker? Record what you accomplished that day. Not only will this provide you with a daily reminder of how amazing you are but when a challenging day confronts you, take out this journal, read it and reflect upon all that you have achieved!